Love Stinks
Reflections and advice on relationships, life, love and the meaning of it all…

Love Stinks

March 18

March 18th, 2008 . by TheGirl


Bright star, would I were steadfast as thou art—
Not in lone splendour hung aloft the night,
And watching, with eternal lids apart,
Like nature’s patient sleepless eremite,
The moving waters at their priestlike task
Of pure ablution round earth’s human shores,
Or gazing on the new soft-fallen mask
Of snow upon the mountains and the moors;
No—yet still steadfast, still unchangeable,
Pillow’d upon my fair love’s ripening breast,
To feel for ever its soft fall and swell,
Awake for ever in a sweet unrest,
Still, still to hear her tender-taken breath,
And so live ever—or else swoon to death.

- John Keats, Bright star, would were steadfast as thou art

March 16

March 16th, 2008 . by TheGirl

The red rose whispers of passion,
And the white rose breathes of love;
O the red rose is a falcon,
And the white rose is a dove.

But I send you a cream-white rosebud
With a flush on its petal tips;
For the love that is purest and sweetest
Has a kiss of desire on the lips.

- John Boyle O’Reilly, A White Rose

March 15

March 15th, 2008 . by TheGirl

First, her tippet made of tulle,
easily lifted off her shoulders and laid
on the back of a wooden chair.

And her bonnet,
the bow undone with a light forward pull.

Then the long white dress, a more
complicated matter with mother-of-pearl
buttons down the back,
so tiny and numerous that it takes forever
before my hands can part the fabric,
like a swimmer’s dividing water,
and slip inside.

You will want to know
that she was standing
by an open window in an upstairs bedroom,
motionless, a little wide-eyed,
looking out at the orchard below,
the white dress puddled at her feet
on the wide-board, hardwood floor.

The complexity of women’s undergarments
in nineteenth-century America
is not to be waved off,
and I proceeded like a polar explorer
through clips, clasps, and moorings,
catches, straps, and whalebone stays,
sailing toward the iceberg of her nakedness.

Later, I wrote in a notebook
it was like riding a swan into the night,
but, of course, I cannot tell you everything -
the way she closed her eyes to the orchard,
how her hair tumbled free of its pins,
how there were sudden dashes
whenever we spoke.

What I can tell you is
it was terribly quiet in Amherst
that Sabbath afternoon,
nothing but a carriage passing the house,
a fly buzzing in a windowpane.

So I could plainly hear her inhale
when I undid the very top
hook-and-eye fastener of her corset

and I could hear her sigh when finally it was unloosed,
the way some readers sigh when they realize
that Hope has feathers,
that reason is a plank,
that life is a loaded gun
that looks right at you with a yellow eye.

- Billy Collins, Taking Off Emily Dickinson’s Clothes

March 14

March 14th, 2008 . by TheGirl

Wild nights. Wild nights!
Were I with thee,
Wild nights should be
Our luxury!

Futile the winds
To a heart in port
Done with the compass
Done with the chart.

Rowing in Eden.
Ah, the sea.
Might I but moor
Tonight with thee!

- Emily Dickinson, Wild Nights 

March 13

March 13th, 2008 . by TheGirl

My heart is like a singing bird
Whose nest is in a water’d shoot;
My heart is like an apple-tree
Whose boughs are bent with thick-set fruit;
My heart is like a rainbow shell
That paddles in a halcyon sea;
My heart is gladder than all these,
Because my love is come to me.

Raise me a dais of silk and down;
Hand it with vair and purple dyes;
Carve it in doves and pomegranates,
And peacocks with a hundred eyes;
Work it in gold and silver grapes,
In leaves and silver fleurs-de-lys;
Because the birthday of my life
Is come, my love is come to me.

- Christina Georgina Rossetti, A Birthday

Edna St. Vincent Millay

November 20th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“I know I am but summer to your heart,
And not the full four seasons of the year.”

Sholem Aleichem

November 20th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“Without love our life is … a ship without a rudder …
like a body without a soul.”

Bertrand Russell and Earl Russell

November 20th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.”

William Thackeray

November 20th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“It is best to love wisely, no doubt;
but to love foolishly is better than
not to be able to love at all.”

John Kenneth Galbraith

November 19th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“The happiest time in any man’s life is just after the first divorce.”

Edward Albee

November 19th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“I swear, if you existed I’d divorce you.”

William Makepeace Thackeray

November 14th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.”

Jean Anouilh

November 14th, 2007 . by TheGirl

“Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.”

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